good day.hmm, i was wondering why lots of people in this circle don't pay attention reading the post.maybe the mere fact that we're very busy doing our task. HEy hey hey, let me share some Dos and Dont's by Kathleen Jacobs in order to build coworker camaraderie in a workplace, also good friendship.
Hope you enjoy reading, get some good idea and let us share to meet our goal...Do pick the right social circle.
The level of friendship you develop with a coworker should depend upon how closely your work together, says Joe Peraino, Ph.D., an executive coach in Texas. It's safer to become buddies with someone from another department while keeping it casual with your cubby mate. After all, that buddy next to you may end up shooting for the same promotion — and if the friendship sours, you're stuck with the awkwardness of seeing each other all day long. That said, if you work in a small office or do become good friends with an employee you work closely with, be abundantly clear about your boundaries, says Lawler. You'll need to establish formally or informally the kind of personal information you're willing to share, where you're comfortable socializing and other details.
Don't lose sight of your focus.
"Don't forget that you're on company time," says Tom Lucas, senior vice president of human resources and employee relations at Adecco, the world's largest employment services firm. Work comes first, friendship second. And be aware of the office culture, adds Lawler. If the place offers after-hours cocktails and beach volleyball, there's your cue that it's a more social and casual place, and you should feel free to tag along for some laughs. "If it's brass plates on the desktops and gray suits all around, assume formality," says Lawler.
Don't assume everyone wants to be friends.
It's OK to pass along a birthday card to a fellow employee in an attempt to take things to a more personal level. But don't expect one in return: What you may think is a friendship the other person may see as merely a strong business relationship. "The key to judging whether a true friendship is building is if there's a shared desire to take the relationship out of the obligatory — i.e., workplace — setting," Yager adds. "If a coworker asks you to grab a drink after work, you can assume she's a friend."
Do gossip — wisely.
Swapping stories can be an important bonding ritual, provided you never cross the line between good and bad chatter, says Sharon Jordan-Evans, a California-based career coach and coauthor of "Love 'Em or Lose 'Em: Getting Good People to Stay." Good: "Did you hear Susie So-and-So is getting married? Isn't that great?" Bad: "I can't believe someone is actually marrying Susie!" If talk gets ugly, don't join in the nastiness (or scold anyone), just go elsewhere. And never, ever assume confidentiality — you never know when something you say will be passed on to another coworker.
Don't let loose.
Friendships with bosses or assistants are trickier because they have built-in power imbalances. Plus, a coworker could one day be your supervisor. So, always remember one word with all these relationships: professionalism. And avoid bringing up what Lawler calls "the big four" topics: sex, politics, religion and money. It's also important to find ways to turn down social offers without giving off the air of rejection. For example, if your manager wants to hang out after work and you feel wary, suggest an outing for the whole staff, says Minnesota-based workplace consultant Kristin Anderson.
Do watch for hidden pitfalls.
Office pals often lean on each other for professional assistance. That's OK, Anderson says, if the project is important to the company or you have the extra time. "But will spending the energy helping your co-worker cause you to leave important work undone?" says Anderson. "Real friends won't look to you for help knowing it will hurt you." If you find yourself assisting a coworker more than you'd like, take a step back from pitching in and address the issue — doing so shouldn't effect a solid relationship. "It's best to be open about your mutual expectations," Anderson says.
Don't forget the little people.
If you get promoted, don't dump the friends who become your subordinates. It may be necessary to tell them that you value their friendship, but you'll need to set up new ground rules. "The consequence of being one of the people in charge is that you must be more committed to doing your job well than to being liked," says Anderson. Conversely, don't expect — or ask for — special treatment. Chumminess doesn't guarantee that a subordinate employee is beyond reproach, nor should it.
Do have a life outside of work.
Your coworkers shouldn't be your only close friends, says Lawler. And for those office mates who
are in your social circle, establish that you're coworkers from 9 to 5 and what goes on after hours isn't necessarily appropriate in the workplace. When you're not at the job, guide the conversation away from work topics. And above all, avoid flaunting the fun you two had on the weekend when you're in the office, says Lawler; it will only make others feel excluded or spark rumors of favoritism.
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I maybe disappointed and saddened with the commotion lately...I hope this one can help
